In these situations， I realize that the respondents are not intentionally or deliberately saying they are speaking for me. But the subtle shift in pronoun usage shifts the focus away from themselves and on to someone else. And any time we abdicate responsibility for something we’re experiencing， we’re damaging our professional credibility. We may unintentionally be implying to our listeners that we are refusing to accept responsibility for our actions and responses. You mean accepting or abdicating responsibility is that subtle？ Yes， that subtle and that damaging to our credibility.